Have you ever noticed how being told no, discourages some people while motivating others? Handling rejection well, can make you a stronger person and will determine your levels of success, personally and professionally in the future. Here are 5 ways to deal with rejection.

Have an appropriate grieving period
If you live on planet earth long enough, you will experience some form of rejection. It may be professionally, romantically or socially, and may be associated with feelings of defeat, depression and dejection, which have a way of eating away at your self-esteem. If you have been rejected therefore, deal with it, by deciding on an appropriate period of time to grieve. Take some time off during the day or week, to process your emotion, by grieving the apparent loss and disappointment, you have experienced.

Talk to someone about the rejection
Having a shoulder to lean on, is always a significant part of the process in dealing with difficulties. Never underestimate the power of a support system. Hence, talking to someone about how you feel as a result of being rejected can be of great help. Find someone though, who is confidential. It could be a close friend, a relative or a professional, such as a life coach or psychotherapist.

Accept the rejection
One of the ways the mind seeks to protect us when we are rejected, is by asking the “why” question. This is a question of judgment, even though it is a question that is trying to figure out the reason we are rejected. This judgemental approach in dealing with the rejection is one of futility. It is best to just accept the rejection for what it is and not take it personal. In other words, if someone doesn’t accept you, it doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you. It may just mean that you are a better fit somewhere else and not for this opportunity at this time.

Reframe the rejection
To reframe the rejection, means to look at it in a positive way. Tell yourself, “there is a lesson that I can learn from this!” Look at the rejection as a door closing, in preparation for a better opportunity.Tell yourself, the time isn’t right, or it’s a blessing in disguise, with something better waiting for me in the future.

Use it to improve
Never allow the rejection to define you. Let it teach you instead. Use the opportunity to examine yourself to see if there is an area in which you can grow. Use it to fuel you towards greatness, to work on mastering your craft, to review your plan to grow and become a better you. Take your revenge on those who rejected you by achieving greater levels of success. As Frank Sinatra once said, “The greatest revenge is massive success.”